The picture above is of my lovely wife, Charyl, and me. She is a beautiful woman thirteen years my junior and I have loved her since we met just over twenty years ago. She is quite different from me in her interests, for she loves animals, especially horses and dogs, but we also have cats, chickens, fish and even exotic birds on our homestead in rural North Florida. She is considerably younger than me, and early on that seemed somewhat strange but then again I know that women age much more maturely than men and now at the ripe old age of 74 it is a big advantage for me having a helpmate younger and more energetic than I find myself today. And I must admit, that once she broke me in to the rural style of life, I love it despite the sometimes inconvenience of country living, such as hurricanes, long trips to town and frequent power outages and such. But having said that I must admit for at least the last seventeen years of the over twenty we have been together, it has been one of the best things to happen to me. And I say that by adding the Charyl herself has been the best. She is my confidant, my best friend, my companion and my lover and she always is ready to help me when I need a hand since getting old is frankly for the birds, but sadly we humans must face the same ultimate fate as all other living things and that is why our faith in God above and His Son is so important. For it gives us a future we otherwise would never have.
Despite my love and respect for my wife, however, sometimes I have made foolish mistakes that have caused her consternation and concern like a recent business deal that I thought was foolproof but in the end it faltered and cost us some significant bucks. Perhaps I was greedy or perhaps I just listened with too much belief in the proposal being considered, and if it had worked as I projected, it would have brought to our life living style with which both of us were enamored. And yet when it came time to finalize the deal, it fell apart as the partnering group disappeared into the dark with my good faith money on the very day that it was to have been finalized.
Charyl and I went through some troubled times in those last few weeks, not knowing the full ramifications of what was taking place and losing patience with me. For my part, I was sulking and trying to think of a way to still make it happen, being unwilling initially to believe this had happened to us. But, finally the two of us came together, I professed my sorrow for what I had done and she acknowledged that she had perhaps over-reacted and we created a united front that we will use going forward. I filed a felony crime report, did my own homework to help put together a good evidentiary case, and it is now being worked by a financial crimes detective and now I am working on how we must stabilize our life and weather on. And the good news is I know that if we stick together with a united front, we will survive this tribulation of life and come out the other side stronger and better than I have ever been and a hallmark of the success will be because of our unity and love, something I guess that I, and even perhaps Charyl as well, may have just taken for granted as a long marriage gets rusty with time. And I will commit to never letting that happen again and we will win the struggle that we have embarked on.
The opening words of Genesis above explain it quite well. When a man and a woman pledge to become man and wife, that relationship must become first and foremost in their life, for the bonds of matrimony include the joining together in the flesh as one. and I know that today so many just laugh at the thought of such commitment. And frankly, as a society turns from God and looks to hold no one accountable for anything, the "if it feels good do it" is attractive to those without discipline and marriages come and go like a trial relationship. But God doesn't intend it that way, and we shouldn't either. Letting problems that can be solve be used for an easy exit, should never be the way. And I thank God for using the errors of my ways to explain it to me and give me the strength to hold on to the person who is truly a part of me and who I am, my beautiful and loving wife, Charyl.
Lord, help these words to keep Charyl and me tied at the hip in all aspects of our earthly life under your guidance. And help others who have faltered and are looking for less restrictive relationships to understand life isn't meant to be that way. Forgive them, but also strengthen their resolve. And we ask this prayer in the name of Lord Jesus, our Redeemer and Our Savior, Amen.